Breaking up of a family is tough for a child to handle. And as parents of the child, it’s your responsibility to make sure that the child doesn’t end up being a victim in this emotional turmoil between the both of you. There are ways to help your child deal positively with divorce and the negative effects it comes in with. We’ve got a few tips that will help you cruise through this tough phase.
1. Maintain a normal routine:
Your child shouldn’t be a spectator to all the heated arguments and discussions – you need to keep your child away from all such chaos. Moreover, you need to make sure nothing disrupts your child’s routine – keep things going as they are. You can save the arguments and discussions for a time when your child is at school or isn’t at home.
2. Talk to your child:
You have to tell your child that his parents won’t be living together anymore. Preferably, the presence of both parents is essential. The child may react adversely, or won’t react at all because of the shock, but he needs to know that his parents are with him, to reassure and take care of him. Make it clear that it wasn’t his fault in any way, it’s just that mom and dad have some issues. Keep the age of the child in mind while talking to him about your separation.
3. Listen to your child:
Your child may withdraw into a shell or may have emotional outbursts. Whatever the case may be, you have to shell out time to hear out your child – what he feels, what he’s going through — this makes the child feel loved and secure. You need to keep in mind that your child will require more attention than usual, and you have to keep your issues aside for the benefit of the child.
4. Collaborate with your ex:
You also need to keep in mind that your ex is still your child’s parent. So there’s no need to have the blame game and name calling to be done in front of your child – it affects them negatively. You can collaborate together and make sure both of you are equally involved in bringing up the child. This helps the child to cope up better.
Hope these tips help you deal with the tough phase in your life. Keeping your kid sane through all the chaos should be your priority, so do all you can to achieve it.